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Appointment Contract

The most important clause in the appointment contract focuses on the child's personality.

The second clause relates to the nature of the appointments and what happens during them, and there are other additional rules that must be taken into consideration, here are some of them.

In the early years of allowing the child to go out on dates with his friends, we would make each appointment separately according to its nature, place and special circumstances, but we always preferred those pre-programmed and well-organized appointments and group appointments organized by the school within its various activities and under the supervision of specialized educators from the school. Secondly, the friend who will accompany our son or daughter must have the approval of all family members. This clause gave us a wide margin to protect our children from engaging in friendships that may be harmful to them. It is a form of a cohesive family in which each member cares for the other with a genuine interest in his or her interests and future.

We also discussed setting priorities for allowing dates. The more a child shows that he or she is trustworthy, disciplined, aware, and pure of heart and soul, the more privileges he or she will be given in terms of freedom to go out on dates with friends approved by the family. Conversely, the more a child shows that he or she is untrustworthy, undisciplined, and willing to break family rules, his or her privileges to go out on dates with friends will be limited or denied for a specific period of time approved by the family. For example, if one of our children is proven to have lied about one of his or her activities, the child will be denied the privileges of going out on dates for a week or two, depending on the severity of the unwanted or unapproved activities he or she has engaged in. We all agreed on the basics of this appointment arrangement contract. As the children grew and matured, we reviewed and revised this contract on an ongoing basis, and we may have developed it and corrected some of the mistakes we encountered in its implementation more than once. We encourage all families to continuously review the foundations and rules that govern their families and to always stay informed of what is happening in their families in order to establish the positive aspects of it, learn from it, and correct the distortions in the behaviors of some and stay away from it.