الأفراح والأحزان في حمص ٣_a .. كتاب حمص

With her hand, but if he is cruel, he lets her get down on her own “so that she does not face”! ! ! ! Then she sits on a chair next to him. This is the only opportunity for women to have the opportunity to see a man without a veil, and the girls begin whispering descriptions of the groom: “How beautiful, oh God, how majestic, what love is there for you.” Meanwhile, the groom’s mother dances, and after that the father takes the hand of his son and daughter-in-law and takes them into their room and then leaves.

Until this moment, the white tulle cover is drawn over the bride’s face. When she is alone with the groom in their room, he first begins to lift the white cover from her face. If he is one of those who are pious, he prays two rak'ahs, which is a very rare thing. Otherwise, he proceeds to hug her and kiss her, which forces the walker, after he leaves, to remake her face and arrange her hair, and on this occasion, he presents her with a gift that they call her in the morning / mentioned above.

When the groom leaves his room, he is the focus of attention of the bride's family so that they know how much he admires his bride. If his secrets were absolute, they knew that she was accepted, and if he came out frowning and frowning, they knew that she did not like him. In this case, his mother intervenes, saying, “This is your portion and your share, created from under your rib. Accept it for God’s will for you”!!!

The first night ends here, and the groom does not have the right to sleep with his bride - he does not leave her and goes out to the procession that is still waiting for him at the door of the house, and they delay his return and bang on the door of the house with their hands, demanding that he be taken out on the pretext that it is too long / then he is taken and returned to the house in which his / dressing took place / where it is held. A singing party called “Al-Ta’lilah.” The party continues until the early hours of the morning, when the Samarites wind down after eating their share of gouache or something else. As for the bride, she returns to her chair after the groom has gone, and the singing and dancing continue until a late hour. The singing and dancing are usually performed by professional women called the “Ushr” or “singers.” Among them were famous at the beginning of the current century: Raqoush, Masouda, Jamila, and the Jarbou’s Sisters. There was a family in Homs called the “Ushr” who practiced their professions. Its members, men and women, sing, play, and dance at weddings. Among them is Mustafa Al-Ashr.

After midnight, the invited women are invited to the wedding dinner, which consists of butterflies. If the groom’s family is rich, they offer them baklava, dhakaba, cheese, olives, and cakes.

And then the invitations start going. As for the groom’s mother, she invites some of her relatives close to her family and the bride’s family to spend the wedding week in her house.

On the morning of that day, the groom comes to his home and sits with his bride and female relatives, until lunchtime, and he will have ordered the kebab. When he comes, the groom’s mother takes from him what is sufficient for her son and his wife for their lunch, then distributes the rest to the invited women, and the groom and his bride have lunch in their home alone. The groom’s mother continues to bring their food to their room for only three days, and then they eat with the people of the house together according to custom.

The days of joy last for seven consecutive days, during which food is served to the invited women. On the third day, the bride’s family and maternal uncles come and visit her and present her with a gift of gold money or bracelets. After the end of the week, the bride visits her family’s house from morning until evening, and this visit is called the man’s wedding. / In the evening, the groom comes and has dinner and stays up for a while, then returns his bride to his home. After forty days have passed since the wedding, the bride is invited to her family’s house to stay with them for a week, and this visit is called the lesson. On the last day, the bride’s father holds a large feast in which he invites the groom’s family and some friends and relatives to eat dinner (1), and after that the bride returns accompanied by her husband on foot. He left him home, and after that their lives went on as usual. The picture we drew above is that of an Islamic wedding that took place over a century ago, and the Christian wedding was not much different from that except in its religious rituals. The new generation of Christians will be astonished when they are presented with the following picture of what took place at their ancestors’ weddings in the last decade of the nineteenth century.

The Christians’ view of women was the same as the Muslims’ view at that time, meaning that the woman was hidden from society, and therefore one could not search for his fiancée himself. He had to send his mother or someone to replace her to search for a bride for him, among the neighbors, relatives, and acquaintances, and when she found what she was looking for, she would return to her. The house and said to her son: “We have found what we are looking for, my son, a bride like a branch of milk and a crown like the seal of Solomon, and a stature like a bamboo stick.” Her son is happy with this bride, and here he also agrees on what the groom will pay his bride in cash and what gifts he will give her.

One of the centenarians, may God prolong his life, narrated to us the following incident: “One of the young men commissioned his relatives to procure a bride for him, that is, to propose to her for him. The head of the delegation was his cousin’s son, and his job was a butcher, and after deliberation with the bride’s mother!” She asked for cash for her daughter, three thousand gerashes like her sister, and the fiancée was not as beautiful as her sister, so the butcher, the head of the delegation, said to her: “I am a butcher. I go to the market to buy a ewe, and its owner asks for 100 gerashes as a price for it, and he has a ewe for 25 gerashes. Is it permissible to Is the price of the first the same as the price of the second? And you, “Give us a daughter like her sister, and we will give you what you want!!!” And thus / 1500 / Gharsha was circumvented...

The engagement takes place and the groom does not know anything about his fiancée except what his mother told him, and he will never see her before the end of the wreath!!! Perhaps some of today’s youth will open their mouths in astonishment and turn their lips in astonishment and wonder: “Is it possible for a person to marry blindness? Christians of Homs narrate the following story and mention the names of its narrators: It was the custom that if a fiancé wanted to visit his fiancée’s family, he would knock on the door of the house until he was given permission, and in the narrated story: She was surprised when she heard permission for her fiancé to enter, “Come in,” but she was unable to go out to another room, so that he would not see her in the land. She entered the house, so she hurried and hid in the yoke / and sat on the bed behind the velvet, and after a while the bride slept for the entire evening, so her balance was lost and she rolled over and fell into the fiancé’s arms! 11 Which sparked laughter and embarrassment in the souls of others.

On the day of the wreath, the bride is placed on the exchange with her face to the wall, and she must pretend to be sad and cry at the separation from her family. The hairdresser has combed her hair, bent her legs and hands, and put borax on her face, and blush on her cheeks and lips, and she is the makeup kit at that time, as mentioned above. Then the bride puts on her white suit, then they cover her with a white sheet to cover what is visible of her dress and face, and she wears clogs on her feet. Alia Shabrawia was decorated with ivory or silver, according to the wealth of her family. The two clogs were connected at the back with a hemp thread. They were then taken to the groom’s house in a large procession, where the wreath was made. The wreath was rarely done in the church, and it was customary for neither the bride’s father nor her mother to attend. Her brothers and sisters are crowned and consider their presence a disgrace to them and a curse attached to them! ! ! Is it possible that they would come to hand over their daughter to a man? ! They assign a relative, such as a cousin or best man, to attend the wreath in their place.

When the bride enters her groom’s house, singers greet her at the door, and leaven is placed in her hand to paste it on the wall of the house so that it can be taken to the groom’s house. After the wreath ceremony is completed, the circle begins around a table with the sign on it, and singing begins to the bride with this song:

God and the name of God, O Zaina, you will enter the garden

The sweat of cloves, my bride, and the roses overshadowed us

Then the sighs begin and then onwards

She mutilated the bride whom no creature saw