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ان الوالدين الحكماء لا يفرضون ارادتهم فـرضا على اولادهم الشبان حتى ولو كانوا بعد معتمدين عليهم . والصواب هو ان يعاملوهم معاملة الند للند لانهم ليسوا بعد اولاداء ان موقفك منهم يترك عليهم طابعا يرافقهم طول الحياة . لا تحرج موقف اولادك الشبان بل كن صبورا متأنياء أنهم يحتاجون الى رأيك ولكن لا تدعهم يشعرون انك تفرضه عليهم فرضا وانهم مجبرون على قبوله . افسح لهم المجال ان ينموا وان يثقوا ويطمئنوا الى انـك واقف بجانبهم تفهم مشاكلهم ومستعد لان تأتي الى مساعدتهم بصرف النظر عن جهالة بعض المراهقين وسخافتهم فانهم طريقهم عبر هذه الفترة . ولا ينتظر منهم حتى ولو كانوا من عـائد واحدة أن يسيروا في الطريق نفسها بل لكل ولد طـريقه الخاص به وتجب معالجة كل فرد على حدة لان لكل فرد آراءه ورغائبه ودوافعه ، ولكن مهما تكن الحال لا تنفر منك احدا منهم بالجدل المرير لان جدلا كهذا لا يحل مشكلة الشباب كما لا يحلها الافراط في اللوم والتأنيب والمقابلة بالآخرين
How do parents help? Wise parents do not impose their will on their young children, even if they are still dependent on them. The right thing to do is to treat them as peers because they are not yet children. Your attitude towards them leaves a mark on them that accompanies them throughout life. Do not embarrass the position of your young children, but be patient and careful that they need your opinion, but do not let them feel that you are imposing it on them and that they are forced to accept it. Allow them to grow, to trust, and to be reassured that you are standing beside them, understanding their problems, and ready to come to their aid, regardless of the ignorance and silliness of some teenagers, as they are their way through this period. It is not expected of them, even if they belong to one family, to follow the same path. Rather, each child has his own path, and each individual must be dealt with separately, because each individual has his own opinions, desires, and motives, but whatever the case may be, do not alienate any of them with bitter controversy, because such an argument does not solve a problem. Youth, as it is not permitted by excessive blame, reprimand, and confrontation with others, make adolescence difficult
ان الوالدين الحكماء لا يفرضون ارادتهم فـرضا على اولادهم الشبان حتى ولو كانوا بعد معتمدين عليهم . والصواب هو ان يعاملوهم معاملة الند للند لانهم ليسوا بعد اولاداء ان موقفك منهم يترك عليهم طابعا يرافقهم طول الحياة . لا تحرج موقف اولادك الشبان بل كن صبورا متأنياء أنهم يحتاجون الى رأيك ولكن لا تدعهم يشعرون انك تفرضه عليهم فرضا وانهم مجبرون على قبوله . افسح لهم المجال ان ينموا وان يثقوا ويطمئنوا الى انـك واقف بجانبهم تفهم مشاكلهم ومستعد لان تأتي الى مساعدتهم بصرف النظر عن جهالة بعض المراهقين وسخافتهم فانهم طريقهم عبر هذه الفترة . ولا ينتظر منهم حتى ولو كانوا من عـائد واحدة أن يسيروا في الطريق نفسها بل لكل ولد طـريقه الخاص به وتجب معالجة كل فرد على حدة لان لكل فرد آراءه ورغائبه ودوافعه ، ولكن مهما تكن الحال لا تنفر منك احدا منهم بالجدل المرير لان جدلا كهذا لا يحل مشكلة الشباب كما لا يحلها الافراط في اللوم والتأنيب والمقابلة بالآخرين
How do parents help? Wise parents do not impose their will on their young children, even if they are still dependent on them. The right thing to do is to treat them as peers because they are not yet children. Your attitude towards them leaves a mark on them that accompanies them throughout life. Do not embarrass the position of your young children, but be patient and careful that they need your opinion, but do not let them feel that you are imposing it on them and that they are forced to accept it. Allow them to grow, to trust, and to be reassured that you are standing beside them, understanding their problems, and ready to come to their aid, regardless of the ignorance and silliness of some teenagers, as they are their way through this period. It is not expected of them, even if they belong to one family, to follow the same path. Rather, each child has his own path, and each individual must be dealt with separately, because each individual has his own opinions, desires, and motives, but whatever the case may be, do not alienate any of them with bitter controversy, because such an argument does not solve a problem. Youth, as it is not permitted by excessive blame, reprimand, and confrontation with others, make adolescence difficult