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عندما يأخذ الولد بالتخريب كتكسير الاواني واتلاف الامتعة عمدا فالامر خطير للغاية . اسألي نفسك ما الذي يدفعه الى ذلك ? هل هو حاقد على أمر هو فوق طاقته ? هل في العائلة حسد ? هل يشعر بانه ولد غير مرغوب فيه فلا يعطف عليه احد ? ربما يحتاج ولد كهذا الى التشجيع والثناء على ما يقوم به من الاعمال الجيـدة مهما تكن قليلة . لا تنتظري الكثير منه بـل شجعيه ليؤسس صداقات مفرحة دائمة ، لان ما تساعدينه به الآن يعني كثيرا له في المستقبل تقدمي يخلق بعض الاولاد المشاكل ليلفتوا نظر الآخرين اليهم ، فاذا كان ولدك من هذا النوع حاولي ان تجدي السبب لذلك . قد يكون ضجرا له ما يلهيه ويرفع عنه السأم من الالعاب . واذا آنست فيه ميلا الى تعزيق الاقمشة قدمي له أقمشة عتيقـة لا قيمة لهـا او اوراقا لا تحتاجين اليها وليمزق ما شاء ويشبع ميله من ذلك . واذا رأيت انه يميل قدمي له الطين والعجين لتسويته وتسطيحه شيء مسلحا الى جعل او ه الى البستان ليستأصل العشب المضر ، ولكن في كل حال ليكن العمل الذي تقدمينه له ملهاة ومسرة لا حملا ثقيلا عليه . لیکن دائما فرحا واذا رأيت ميلا في ولدك لتفكيك اشياء فقدمي له الالعاب التي يمكن تفكيكها ثم جمعها ثانية . او اذا رأيت فيه ميلا للتصوير فأعطيه قلما او فرشاة وورقا للكتابة والتصوير ، او اعطيه لوح حجر يكتب عليه ما يشاء ويصور مـا يشاء ، لان ذلـك افضل من ان يحمل قلما وفرشاة ويلوث جدران البيت كلها . افسحي المجال امامه لكي يشبع ميله بطريقة غير مضرة اذا آنست في ولدك ميلا الى مزج الاشياء معا ( او اذا لم تأنسي منه ذلك ) قدمي له بعض الرمل او الطين والدلغان وليلعب بها ويمزجها كما يشاء وقدر ما يشاء وليشبع ميله ، لانه اذا لم يشبع ذلك الميل بل كبته عاد عليه بالضرر وولد فيه عقدا وتشويشا عاطفياء الافضل ان يكون طبيعيا في تصرفاته اذا كان الولد خشنا في لعبه اجلسي معه واحكي له قصة مهدئة • واستعدي لذلك باعداد القصص لموقف كهـذا لانك لا تعرفين متى تحتاجين اليها ، فبضع دقائق من العلاج والوقاية قد توفر عليك ساعات في اصلاح ما يكون قد تخرب . لیکن امامه فسحة واسعة للعب والركض بحرية تامة . الفقي معه كل يوم بضع دقائق تعلمينه فيها اللعب الهادىء
Vandal children When a boy commits vandalism, such as breaking utensils and deliberately destroying luggage, the matter is very dangerous. Ask yourself what drives him to do so? Is he hateful over something that is beyond his power? Is there envy in the family? Does he feel that he is an unwanted child, so no one sympathizes with him? Perhaps such a child needs encouragement and praise for the good deeds he does, however small. Do not expect much from him, but encourage him to establish lasting, happy friendships, because what you help him with now means a lot to him in the future.
progress, some children create problems to draw the attention of others to them. If your child is of this type, try to find the reason for that. He may be bored with something to distract him and relieve him of boredom from games. And if you notice in him a tendency to hoe fabrics, offer him old fabrics that have no value or papers that you do not need, and let him tear whatever he wants and satisfy his desire with that. And if you see that he tends my feet of clay and dough to flatten it and flatten it with something armed to make or him to the garden to uproot the harmful grass, but in any case let the work that you offer him be a distraction and pleasure, not a heavy burden on him. May it always be joyful, and if you see a tendency in your son to disassemble things, give him toys that can be disassembled and then reassembled. Or if you see in him a penchant for photography, give him a pen or a brush and paper for writing and photographing, or give him a stone tablet on which he can write whatever he wants and photograph whatever he wants, because that is better than carrying a pen and a brush and polluting all the walls of the house. Make space for him to satisfy his inclination in a non-harmful way. If you have developed a tendency in your son to mix things together (or if you have not forgotten him to do so), offer him some sand or clay and tampons so that he can play with it and mix it as he wants and as much as he wants and to satisfy his inclination, because if he does not satisfy that inclination Rather, suppressing him caused him harm and gave birth to emotional complexes and confusion. It is better for him to be natural in his behavior. If the child is rough in his game, sit with him and tell him a calming story. Prepare for that by preparing stories for a situation like this, because you do not know when you need them. A few minutes of treatment and prevention may save you. Hours to repair what has been ruined. Let him have a wide space in front of him to play and run freely. Al-Fiqi with him every day for a few minutes, during which you teach him to play quietlyquiet
عندما يأخذ الولد بالتخريب كتكسير الاواني واتلاف الامتعة عمدا فالامر خطير للغاية . اسألي نفسك ما الذي يدفعه الى ذلك ? هل هو حاقد على أمر هو فوق طاقته ? هل في العائلة حسد ? هل يشعر بانه ولد غير مرغوب فيه فلا يعطف عليه احد ? ربما يحتاج ولد كهذا الى التشجيع والثناء على ما يقوم به من الاعمال الجيـدة مهما تكن قليلة . لا تنتظري الكثير منه بـل شجعيه ليؤسس صداقات مفرحة دائمة ، لان ما تساعدينه به الآن يعني كثيرا له في المستقبل تقدمي يخلق بعض الاولاد المشاكل ليلفتوا نظر الآخرين اليهم ، فاذا كان ولدك من هذا النوع حاولي ان تجدي السبب لذلك . قد يكون ضجرا له ما يلهيه ويرفع عنه السأم من الالعاب . واذا آنست فيه ميلا الى تعزيق الاقمشة قدمي له أقمشة عتيقـة لا قيمة لهـا او اوراقا لا تحتاجين اليها وليمزق ما شاء ويشبع ميله من ذلك . واذا رأيت انه يميل قدمي له الطين والعجين لتسويته وتسطيحه شيء مسلحا الى جعل او ه الى البستان ليستأصل العشب المضر ، ولكن في كل حال ليكن العمل الذي تقدمينه له ملهاة ومسرة لا حملا ثقيلا عليه . لیکن دائما فرحا واذا رأيت ميلا في ولدك لتفكيك اشياء فقدمي له الالعاب التي يمكن تفكيكها ثم جمعها ثانية . او اذا رأيت فيه ميلا للتصوير فأعطيه قلما او فرشاة وورقا للكتابة والتصوير ، او اعطيه لوح حجر يكتب عليه ما يشاء ويصور مـا يشاء ، لان ذلـك افضل من ان يحمل قلما وفرشاة ويلوث جدران البيت كلها . افسحي المجال امامه لكي يشبع ميله بطريقة غير مضرة اذا آنست في ولدك ميلا الى مزج الاشياء معا ( او اذا لم تأنسي منه ذلك ) قدمي له بعض الرمل او الطين والدلغان وليلعب بها ويمزجها كما يشاء وقدر ما يشاء وليشبع ميله ، لانه اذا لم يشبع ذلك الميل بل كبته عاد عليه بالضرر وولد فيه عقدا وتشويشا عاطفياء الافضل ان يكون طبيعيا في تصرفاته اذا كان الولد خشنا في لعبه اجلسي معه واحكي له قصة مهدئة • واستعدي لذلك باعداد القصص لموقف كهـذا لانك لا تعرفين متى تحتاجين اليها ، فبضع دقائق من العلاج والوقاية قد توفر عليك ساعات في اصلاح ما يكون قد تخرب . لیکن امامه فسحة واسعة للعب والركض بحرية تامة . الفقي معه كل يوم بضع دقائق تعلمينه فيها اللعب الهادىء
Vandal children When a boy commits vandalism, such as breaking utensils and deliberately destroying luggage, the matter is very dangerous. Ask yourself what drives him to do so? Is he hateful over something that is beyond his power? Is there envy in the family? Does he feel that he is an unwanted child, so no one sympathizes with him? Perhaps such a child needs encouragement and praise for the good deeds he does, however small. Do not expect much from him, but encourage him to establish lasting, happy friendships, because what you help him with now means a lot to him in the future.
progress, some children create problems to draw the attention of others to them. If your child is of this type, try to find the reason for that. He may be bored with something to distract him and relieve him of boredom from games. And if you notice in him a tendency to hoe fabrics, offer him old fabrics that have no value or papers that you do not need, and let him tear whatever he wants and satisfy his desire with that. And if you see that he tends my feet of clay and dough to flatten it and flatten it with something armed to make or him to the garden to uproot the harmful grass, but in any case let the work that you offer him be a distraction and pleasure, not a heavy burden on him. May it always be joyful, and if you see a tendency in your son to disassemble things, give him toys that can be disassembled and then reassembled. Or if you see in him a penchant for photography, give him a pen or a brush and paper for writing and photographing, or give him a stone tablet on which he can write whatever he wants and photograph whatever he wants, because that is better than carrying a pen and a brush and polluting all the walls of the house. Make space for him to satisfy his inclination in a non-harmful way. If you have developed a tendency in your son to mix things together (or if you have not forgotten him to do so), offer him some sand or clay and tampons so that he can play with it and mix it as he wants and as much as he wants and to satisfy his inclination, because if he does not satisfy that inclination Rather, suppressing him caused him harm and gave birth to emotional complexes and confusion. It is better for him to be natural in his behavior. If the child is rough in his game, sit with him and tell him a calming story. Prepare for that by preparing stories for a situation like this, because you do not know when you need them. A few minutes of treatment and prevention may save you. Hours to repair what has been ruined. Let him have a wide space in front of him to play and run freely. Al-Fiqi with him every day for a few minutes, during which you teach him to play quietlyquiet