انغلاق الأذرع Closing tentacles .. كتاب عندما تكسب قلب طفلك

Closing tentacles .. A book when you win your child's heart

Closing tentacles

This is what I saw happen to my son Greg, when I pushed him in the living room and yelled at him with obvious roughness, I pricked his ego, (and the rougher the roughness, the greater the pain that reaches the ego). My roughness in dealing with him and pushing him in the living room, then punishing him on his bed by hitting him, was in fact three attempts to prick and hurt his ego without even trying to ask him what made him scream that way. Greg did exactly what a starfish does. He gathered himself and closed it in my face with every rough attempt I made to alert him.

When Greg closed himself in on us, he closed everything else with him. He no longer loved me and could no longer stand to see me or be close to me or talk to him. He strongly resisted my attempts to touch him and calm him down. These are the keys to self-absorption, when you approach him or her and are met with resistance and indifference, or when you touch his or her hand and find it cold, broken and not extended, and if you put your arm around his or her shoulder, the back is turned to you and the shoulder trembles with a clear movement of indifference and rejection, and if you try to dialogue with the other, you are met with silence and sometimes hateful looks of reproach. These are some manifestations of self-absorption.